"Redbook" has a bunch of advice on how women can get men to PAY ATTENTION to what they're saying.   Here are phrases that supposedly make men stop zoning out and LISTEN:

1.  "Thank you".

2.  "I'm so proud of you".

3.  "I think that woman was checking you out".

4.  "Let's turn this into a bet".

5.  "You need to go to bed".

6.  "Meet me at that bar".

7.  "I'm flashing back to the last time we had sex".  (Redbook)