Some days, it seems like everything is going your way and nothing can get you down, but glass half full types seem to feel that way all the time, so how do they do it? “Some people are just happier than others. They don’t have to work at it, right? They just are,” explains social psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky, who’s been studying happiness for over 35 years. “They’re kind of like people who are thin naturally, and they don’t have to work hard at it.”
She explains that happiness has two components and you need both to be a “happy” person. First is the experience of positive emotions, like joy, calm, enthusiasm, affection and pride. The second is “having a sense that your life is good,” and being satisfied with your life. So a big question for researchers, and those of us who want to be one of those glass half full people, is can you change and become a happier person?
Lyubomirsky says you can’t change your genetics and changing circumstances, like getting a new job or a new relationship, will only get you so far. But we can change our habits and the way we behave. She and other researchers have found that happy people tend to have certain habits and adding these may boost your level of happiness.
- Go with the “flow” - Get in the state of “flow” where you’re so absorbed in what you’re doing that you lose yourself. “Flow” experiences are challenging & engaging and associated with joy.
- Practice random acts of kindness - Doing nice things for others makes you feel capable and generous, and more connected with the world, plus it makes others feel happy, too.
- Nurture your relationships - Personal relationships affect happiness more than money, a job title or even your health, according to the experts, so focus on strengthening those can boost levels of joy.
- Express gratitude - Taking stock of all the positive things in your life can help you appreciate the good things you may take for granted.
- Celebrate good news - Congratulate the successes and accomplishments of your loved ones and pat yourself on the back for your wins, too. Sharing these moments of joy is linked to elevated happiness and well-being.
Source: CNN